Fantasy Brides

Finding a right match is what everyone seeks for. We see how lucky some people are with their true to life fairy tale stories and fervently wished the same for ours. But, is it in any way feasible? Will it ever happen to us?

Wondering if the right one will ever come in itself is a big life mystery, while there are no definite answers to some of life’s critical questions. Life is still our choice and the consequences of our actions may lead to a beautiful or ugly outcome.

Finding your most suitable match is not an impossibility. There are things we can control and those are through the choices that we make. So how do we look for our most suitable match? The following checklist is a good start.

1. Know Yourself

You simply can’t find someone compatible if you don’t know yourself for where would you base compatibility with someone from? Knowing yourself is the first step.

You have to be aware of yourself first. What you like or don’t like, what you can or can’t tolerate, your strengths, your weaknesses, your quirks, inhibitions, and triggers to find the balance of what would best compliment you.

The easiest way to do this is to take some personality test. Find reliable personality test you can take online and save the results. Ask friends and family about how they see you and learn from it. Just keep note and list their observations.

2. Know Who You are Looking For

Be clear of what you’re looking for. The sure-fire-way to do this is to brainstorm and make a list. Make a wishlist of the ideal partner--their personality, appearance, the industry they work in, their interests, etc. Be specific. You can make a priority list, divide them into columns with negotiable and non-negotiable elements. Or score up your dates if they match every quality you’re looking for.

3. Know Who You Attract

There are certain type of people we like and there are those who like us. Notice the pattern of the type of people (the opposite sex) who are drawn to you. For instance, you might really like conservative-type but most of the people who you attract are the liberated-type. Learn and understand why this is so. Being aware of this is the beginning of controlling your circumstances to ultimately attract who you want to attract, and make things go your favor.

4. Stick It Out

Persist on being selective. Say no to doubtful profiles, end dates you think is not good for you as early as possible.

It is important not to be passive about what you really want. This is how most successful people get what they want. They don’t settle, they stick it out longer until they get it. This may sound idealistic but being passive about what you want might make you end up getting the things you don’t like instead. Wait and keep on selecting until the right fit comes along.

5. Be Yourself

While it’s nice and natural to put your best foot forward on a first or second date, you will not be able keep up with an image that is not true to you for a long time. So, as early as chatting with them, try to observe if you can be yourself around this person. If you find it hard to be yourself even on your 4th or 5th date then chances are they might not be a very good match for you. You’d want to be with someone whom you’ll feel comfortable with.

6. Put Yourself Out There

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Don’t wait around wondering why your suitable match hasn’t arrived yet. As we get older, our social networks tend to decrease and finding a potential mate in the workplace or the locality could become slimmer.

The solution is put yourself out there. Join organizations, social networks or causes that aligns with your interests, or better yet, join dating sites. Utilising technology is the easiest way to do this. Just be sure to read safety tips for online dating first before you take the plunge.

7. Know How to Market Yourself

Oftentimes, how a person perceives you is largely due to how you present yourself. So, make your profile interesting. Know how you’d appear like to people by experimenting on your looks, your photos or profile descriptions and highlighting your best qualities.

In making your profile online, post photos that reflect who you are and your lifestyle. but don’t overdo it. You don’t want to be too predictable or too transparent, you might become a convenient prey to scams. Give space to mystery and intrigue to make any potential mate want to get to know you more.

8. Show Optimism

A positive vibe is always attractive. Use positive phrases or words like “fun” or “exciting” or “happy.” People are drawn to positive, inspiring people. Be as optimistic as possible but work on making this true in your day to day life as well.

9. Love Yourself

This is a rule you can’t keep out from. Love yourself first before you could ever give love to others. Explore yourself. Explore hidden strengths. Develop those strengths and embrace your weaknesses. Only in being so convinced of yourself as a truly lovely person deserving of love, will you attract those that also thinks so.

10. Find the Right Mix

Find the right mix between your type and who you attract. If you can reconcile some elements and find the the sweet spot of these elements, (you like someone but they don’t like you vs. someone likes you but in no way you will ever like them), then you most likely found a keeper. And it might just be the best relationship you’ll ever have in a lifetime.

Final Thoughts

There’s no perfect person. Just a person who matches you quite nicely. Exploring who you are will pave the way to exploring who your best match is.

Have you seen ying yang?

Sometimes the dark can be a nice complement to the light. Some weaknesses can be great fit to some strengths and vice versa. Don’t search for the perfect person, just search for someone great for you.

Have you thought of dating someone foreign? Enticed by their culture? Unfortunately, a lot of people miss out on the chance of finding their ideal partner due to misconceptions on foreign dating.

But the truth on foreign dating is far more positive. Let's tackle some of the myths below.

Myth 1: You Can't Trust International Dating Agencies.

What most don’t understand, is that using international dating agencies are just as secured as paying your bills online. International dating agencies are reliable and professional.

Of course, scams cannot be eliminated completely. All you have to do is some researching about the agency you are keen on joining.

Make sure that their numbers are contactable.

That they won’t request fees just for inquiries on their services.

And their site registration is free.

Mtyh 2: The Girls are too Good to be True

A lot of the women listed on international dating sites are beautiful, too beautiful that they might be mistaken for someone too good to be true. But this is because international match making agencies make sure their women members are presented well, that's why they are photographed well.

But these women are real. They signed up to the site and were screened by the staff to make sure they are elligible women really looking for real love outside of their own borders.

These women have reasons to pursue foreign men. Reasons like: there’s not enough men in their country. Russia and Ukraine are known to having women outnumbering the men. This makes it hard for eligible single ladies find a suitable partner.

Most Asian countries are still practicing patriarchal social system and in some cases, especially for the women; they decide to join the agency in hopes of finding someone who would treat them fairly.

Myth 3: The Marriage Won't Last

It is a common misconception to think that marriage through foreign dating doesn’t last. But your relationship has nothing to do with whether you met through online or through agency nor does your country have anything to do with it. There are a ton of successful love stories here and there found on online dating, and international dating websites, that we can't count them. Some you've probably witnessed yourself.

Every relationship has mountains to climb for everything to work. Communication is the key, followed by understanding and patience. Before you jump into foreign dating, make sure you understand that you’ll need to adapt to your partner’s quirks as she will also adapt to yours. It’s true that culture differences can become an issue within relationships but don’t let that discourage you from fully committing.

Mtyh 4: Foreign Dating is only for the Rich

Most men shy away from foreign dating because they think foreign women prefer those who have money. You can’t be more wrong on this one.

These ladies are looking for a soulmate. Just like you, they are looking for someone they can spend the rest of their life with. Having stability is important not just for women but also for you.

Final Thoughts

There is nothing wrong in being cautious when it comes to using international dating agencies. But keep a positive and open-mind. Before you dismiss foreign dating, clear your mind from any and all misconceptions.

You probably know the answer to this question by heart since five, so why do you need to ask it again now? 

Well, obviously because you have changed since then. By now, if you're an adult, you already have different needs, wants, and preference according to your age, experiences, and level of maturity.

Knowing your type of women is the first step in Finding the Fantasy Bride you can Spend a Lifetime With. I recommend you check out the points we listed out for you here in a separate blog post, before going deep into figuring this part of the process.

So, let's do it backwards.

First question you need to ask yourself is, 

"Why?"

You may be reacting, 

"B-but, where's the fun in that?"

"Does it really matter now at my age?" 

Well, there's a back talk inside your mind that will teach you the wisdom you can only gain after making mistakes in experiencing it yourself. 

To save you from the hassle and the time a lot has wasted, let me lay it out for you now. 

You have to be clear on what you want

You need to know the kind of girl that best suits you because it will help you determine exactly what kind of woman you'd like to date. 
This will allow you to avoid major future frustrations and disappointments about things you actually really didn't want to "sign up" for or expected to deal with in the first place. 

Have fun on getting to know your potential mate(s), explore,  because, hey, what is dating for, right? 

But if you're looking for a long term or even a lifetime commitment to a fantasy woman you are trying to get to know, set a clear target for yourself first and clearly communicate it to your prospective mate. 

Being double minded and ending up sending double signals will, later on, spell trouble. 

Hit the sure road to happiness by just getting yourself sure about what you want. 

Remember indecision is a decision. 

You don't need to settle for a mediocre choice

While exerting effort and working on your differences is an important factor in a successful relationship, compatibility and your natural admiration of the other person play a major role to both you and your future partner's happily-ever-after. 

And that's why you're looking and searching, right? Keep the hopes up. 

With patience, the right perspective, and the attitude to work on it, you will find what you're looking for if you keep on looking until you get it. 

There is an abundance of resources around us, you have a great match somewhere and you can find the right pair who can create with you the happiest relationship you could ever be in if you don't give up. 

But, You need to do the groundwork. First. 

Know yourself.

Don't shy away from answering these questions. 

Answer it honestly, with no restrictions. Do not objectify just yet.

List it down on paper or carefully lay it out in your head.

So, again, 

"Who's your type of women?"